Tuesday, 5 November 2013

Writing daily is happening, well almost - for NaNoWriMo

Apart from 1 day with no writing I have managed to write daily and instead of re-editing multiple times the same chapter, I'm doing a quick edit and then moving forward. My aim is to write it as I think of it and then when I've finished I'll have a load of words to work with. So far the pouring out of words is working well -- we'll have to wait and see if this helps the edit process or not.

But as for getting me writing it's working because previously I was so hung up on how a single sentence should be worded I wasn't moving forward with my story and then would procrastinate while I thought of that sentence. Having a goal to write daily and get the word count up in a public setting is also quite motivating. Strange how that would be because no one really cares if I do this or not, but it is helping me this month.

Let's see how this next week of writing progresses.

Wednesday, 30 October 2013

Can I really write 50,000 words in 30 days? NaNoWriMo here I come!

I've been telling myself everyday that I need to write, write, write. Which is easy to say and really hard to do all the time. If you are like me you have a life and people who need you and want you to be around and in the present moment with them.

I do love my life, but sometimes I really wish I could just be quiet and write for a day instead of catering to a very, very energetic 3yo, and working fulltime in my day job. So to try and kick start the creative juices I'm attempting NaNoWriMo for the first time ever and am hoping the collective efforts of everyone else giving it a go will keep me more motivated and eager to keep up with them all. Who knows, I could actually finish my book and maybe even sell it. It's basically a win-win situation.

If you are not familiar with this organisation and event, check out the link and give it a go.  What have you got to lose?

I might even finally get to writing this blog on a daily basis as I'd first planned.

Friday, 23 August 2013

Where is my Mojo? I want it back!


As a solo mummy of a young toddler I have learnt that he is the boss and I am not. Everything I do, I do for him. Yes, I'm sure you all know exactly what I mean if you have little ones. Gone are the days of a regular hair cut and gossip at the hairdressers, gone are the days of marguerita's all afternoon in the beer garden, gone are the days of having all the latest shoes and matching handbags. Yep, now it's all nappies, nappy bags, spare clothes and food everywhere.

Well it was. My little man is becoming ever so independent now and apparently can do it himself - as I'm being told a lot lately. Yeh! or Oh no - he doesn't need me anymore.... sob. I am trying to be postive and have realised that this means I don't need to be around 24/7, I might get a break occassionally and go out into the world again - as an adult.

So in an effort to get my mojo back I did what any normal woman would do -- get a new do. What do you think? Too radical from my website pic?


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Wednesday, 21 August 2013

Earthquake - a valid reason to procrastinate

I had been feeling rather guilty about not blogging in a couple of months.  I had great intentions when I started and really enjoy the writing process once I do start, but man it's hard to put time aside for it.  I know everyone is busy but recently I seem to have been in a permanent state of 'deer in the headlights' syndrome.  I just move from one task to the next and never seem to catch up and have any me-time.

Then last week I told myself I would start on the weekend and just write - not for any purpose other than to just do it.  But then on the Friday we were hit by a severe quake here in Wellington, New Zealand.

I did know it was a possibility but actually being on the 11th floor of a building that is rocking back and forth with such power that the drawers fly out of the cabinet under my desk is not a lot of fun. For any non-Wellingtonians you may have heard we had a big quake here last Friday that was classed as severe. The official rating was a 6.1 to a 6.7 depending on which paper you read, and it was severe in my book too. Pictures fell off the walls and glass smashed, water pipes to coolers and coffee machines broke with water gushing onto the carpet, large filing cabinets fell over and stuff just generally went flying. Luckily I watched the locals and did what they did, which was duck, cover, hold. We all ducked under our office desks, which covered us and held on so the desk stayed over us and didn’t bounce away - which is a possibility. It felt like it lasted for ages but must have only been about 20 seconds I think. Thankfully no one was hurt and we all made it out of the building.

It’s quite sobering when something like that happens to you and my 1st thought, naturally, was to get my son from daycare and get the hell out of dodge. Unfortunately getting out of town was exactly what everyone wanted to do and my young son and I sat in our car for almost 2 hours trying to move along roads that would normally take us 10 minutes to navigate past. But we made good use of the time with snacks and water. Plus my son decided we should play hide and seek.

Of course I say, and how do we play this game today? Young son replies, “you count mummy and I’ll hide.” Hmmm, we are in the car in our seat belts - not sure how this will work, but not one to say no and dampen his inventiveness we give it a go. “No mummy, you put your hands over your eyes and count.” Of course I do, and as the car really isn’t moving at this stage I oblige and count to 5 and then with a ready or not hear I come I turn in my seat to search for my son. I couldn’t stop laughing as he’d picked up a book and was hiding behind it. So I said “where is Zac, I wonder where he went?”

You get the idea. So a game that I thought was ridiculous for a car ride turned out to be a lot of fun with much real laughter from me, which gave my son a lot of confidence and laughs as well. He was really happy to stop me stressing for a while. If I was to put a moral in this blog today it would be to think outside the box and not just assume things can only be done the way they always have been - even in emergency situations. It took a 3 year old to show me that.

Then I become consumed by procrastination and red wine when we finally arrived home.  All weekend I couldn't seem to concentrate on much or remember to do things.  It's all a bit of a blur really, but now I feel compelled to start writing again.  Hopefully this will be the impetus to get me going on to bigger and better things - like becoming a full time writer.  Fingers crossed.

Sunday, 2 June 2013

Month 2 & 3 - Where did the time Go?


I can't believe it's been over a month since my last blog, and I was going to be so good and write often.  Well any other working mum out there will know how unpredictable their life can be while juggling it all.

During the month my little man hit a phase where he just wanted mummy-time all the time.  He didn't want to go to daycare, he just wanted to hang out with mum.  Which is great and I love that about him, and I am very well aware there will be a day when he doesn't want to do that.  However, when I'm in the middle of deadlines for my day job and getting pressure to be on time for a change it's not that cute.

Especially when he is pulling the covers back over him in the morning because he isn't ready to get out of bed yet.  Aaaargh! I yell to myself and quietly we have another conversation about it's time to get up and go to daycare because mummy has to go to work to earn money to buy us food.  Yes, he says, I like food.  Don't we all.

So with all that happening, working from home most nights to keep up with my day job and then looking for time to sleep, I just haven't made it back to the computer for my writing.  But today I finally found a couple of hours and feel really good to have written a whole chapter.  It certainly won't be the final version of it, but at least it's there and I know how the next chapter will play out too.  We have momentum.

I have also had one of those great weekends with my little man, who is now into all things 'karate' and spiderman.  Well his version of 'karate' is playing rough with mummy, and I have to say he's getting way too strong and rough for me.  I'll have to enroll him in proper karate soon I think.

Another big event just passed was receiving my eBook cover art from Digital Donna.  She is doing amazing work for an author friend of mine, Topsy Baxter and her new book "Interrupted Romance" and I'm very impressed with what she has done for me.  Here's a peak at the cover -- let me know what you think.  The first few chapters will be out by the end of the week and the book should be out by the end of June.  That's the current plan anyway.

Friday, 19 April 2013

Month 1 - a delayed start to the Adventure

So much for my adventure into writing everyday! The past month has been filled with an unwell toddler, mice taking up residence under my dishwasher and using the rest of the house as a mouse resort, oh and then there is my day job if I have time. Fixing these issues was a priority and there was no way I could move forward if I ignored them, and I did seriously consider that option. My toddler had some time out of daycare and at home with lots of mummy-cuddles and being snuggled and warm out of the windy, cold weather we are having here in Wellington, NZ. Then after numerous attempts attempting to be a super-mom I realised catching mice is not my thing. They were mocking me each night by licking the peanut butter off the traps and running away, probably dancing on the furniture. I bought almost every trap on the market which included the humane traps and those other ones that are not so humane. Nothing worked. In the end, after a week of trying and not liking to touch anything in my house anymore, I called a pest guy. He came the next day, baited the house and within 3 days I’ve seen no more droppings or mice. Yeh! We have been mouse-free for 5 days now and I’m loving the house again. With those areas of my life tackled, I feel like I can relax a little and get back to my writing. I have been missing my story and really want to type up all the thoughts and musings I’ve been daydreaming. How is everyone else getting on with achieving their task list?

Saturday, 23 March 2013

Day 1 - the Adventure begins

As a solo mum in my early 40's I've been struggling with how to support myself and my now toddler son and still have a great lifestyle with all the basics.  You see, I was a career girl who travelled to different countries whenever I felt like it on and off (mostly on) over the past 15 years.  However, the life of a mum doesn't quite afford me the time or energy to be jet-setting any longer as a consultant.  The long hours at a clients and the even longer hours out socialising are very much the past for me.  I also no longer want that lifestyle.

I have a handsome, extremely energetic and very cute 2 y.o. son who is the center of my world - and as it should be.  So, the reason for this blog is to share my trials and hopefully, triumphs of becoming a financially independent writer and author.  I'm sure other career mums can sympathize with rushing to get to work on time after dropping your little darling at daycare.  Your guilt over abandoning them to another weighing heavy on you as you skull down your travel mug of coffee to wake you up before an all important meeting/presentation.  You make it in with 1 minute to spare and go into your spiel.  Then someone points out you have a mark on your black jacket.  Aaah!  It's either milk from a wet kiddy kiss on your shoulder as you carried them, or regurgitated breakfast, or both, or a handprint from something else your child was touching...  Whichever it was, it has left a stain on your jacket and on your professionalism.  While everyone has a laugh and acts like they understand, you just can't help feeling that you are lacking in the skills and professionalism to deliver on something you have done hundreds of times before and you are an expert.

Well at least that is how it makes me feel.

Which is why I'm looking for another source of income that allows me to not be quite so pristine at work, and be flexible in my work hours to spend the time I want and need to with my son.

My preferred genre is romance writing and while I enjoy a Scottish Historic Romance as a good read, I prefer to write a more contemporary romance that gets quite hot and sexy in the intimate department.

I've dabbled in writing over the past 30 years just for myself, but I'm now attempting to see if I can make a good living from it.  Fingers crossed.

So please check back often and see how I'm going and feel free to drop me a line of encouragement.